Thursday, April 17, 2008

Relationships

I have posed this question in my poll but I decided to pose the same question in my blog post just to get an idea of where everyone's head is in regards to whether or not a gay or lesbian relationship would have any more staying power if it were all nice and legal.

Let's think about it for a minute. How many of you were raised in a single parent household after a divorce? I was one of those kids. My parents divorced when I was 14 and I remember all of the good days and the ugly days that surrounded that "event". It was painful for both. It was all about custody issues, child support and alimony issues,who got to live in the house and the sorting through the miscellaneous bits-n-pieces of "who got what".

So my question is to you this evening......if gay and lesbian partnerships were all nice and legal would we take them more seriously or would those relationships still average a 5 year lifespan? If lesbians were dragged through divorce court each time they broke up, would we learn to be more patient and committed to each other because of that?

Lesbian inquiring minds yearn to know..........

4 comments:

Lynt said...

did you use the word 'patience' in that post? hmm. and five years.

Hahn at Home said...

Kid of divorce here. Divorced/Dissolution x 2.

No. I don't think it would make it last any longer. We, generally, as a country, find relationship disposable. Marriage has those legal ties that make it tougher to leave and sometimes in that time you can work things out.

I think people will go if things get boring/semi-tough/routine anyway, rather than do the work.

CJ said...

I live in Massachusetts where I'm sure you know gay marriage is legal. And I agree with Hahn. I only know 2 couples personally that have legally tied the knot and one of those couples filed for divorce after about a year. Most of the lesbian couples I know here have chosen not to wed, at least for now anyway.

raych.com said...

I don't think it'd make a difference. I'm not sure I know too many of my couple-friends who'd get married. Even though there isn't marriage, there are commitment ceremonies ... and i only know one couple who did that.